Three-Phase Doula Model
There is no concrete or definitive way to perform end-of-life care. Each individual and their family has specific needs that need to be addressed in different ways. I assist individuals and families in preparing for death with a holistic, non-biased, compassionate approach. I offer comfort and support, regular visits with patients and families, coaching, advanced directives, individual religious rites, and whatever else a family might need of me. Good quality care means that every moment is an evolution that the Doula and family experience together–It is an unfolding. Therefore, I follow a simple rubric:
I. Summing Up & Planning
“What concerns or worries you?” “What do you believe or hope happens after we die?”
- Address worries & issues
- Increase quality of life
- Explore life meaning
- Address legacy projects and individual visualizations
- Plan atmosphere and environment
- Educate about the dying process
- Design rituals, etc
II. Conducting Vigil
This begins with active dying and involves presence at bedside.
- Hold space for the Vigil plan
- Use guided visualization/meditation as needed
- Use instructed music, touch, rituals
- Assist in physical care
- Provide rest for family
- Normalize dying and maintain sacredness.
III. Reprocessing & Early Grief
5-6 weeks after death
- Retell the dying story/Address reoccurring images
- Discuss what was said/not said
- Bereavement referrals
- Navigating and nurturing grief to cultivate meaning
What I am not: a hospice nurse, licensed doctor of any sort or registered medical presence. Therefore, I do not diagnose or assist with medical issues.
I do this work on a sliding scale and pro bono for those in need. Every person deserves a peaceful death. I will never turn down somebody for financial reasons. Pay it forward or pay what you can.
My services are located in King County of Seattle, WA. I am willingly to travel on a case-by-case basis and have access to Skype for any questions that you might have.
Still reading? Ready? The first step is a consultation and the rest goes on from there.